When we assume…

The mother of the now-14-year-old girl at the center of the situation in the Connecticut high school visits The Beat to present her side of the story, which is really, really welcome, given some of the assumptions that were flying around.

3 Responses to When we assume…

  1. gynocrat says:

    I just read through that, and I can recall getting the question ‘how did reading this story make you feel’ after a reading assignments, to be quite the norm for lit teachers to ask. Did he ask other children about their summer reading assignments? If they all chose different books, then he’d have to ask them one on one or in groups, and not as a ‘whole class’ question.

    Also, why didn’t she just approach the teacher? :/ The principal and the ‘police’? Because this isn’t just about Eightball, this is about the parents premptive paranoia in assuming this men had ulterior motives–after all, why would he assume ‘our baby’ is mature of enough for the material.

    There were always a few Rabbis [went to private school, sorry] who wanted to be ‘buddies’ with us; they were cooler and spoke to us one on one. I remember the anthropology teacher showing ‘Quest for Fire’ to us my freshmen year of High School. I don’t recall him be fired or questioned by police for showing a class full of girls this film. 0_0.

    This teacher made a bad choice; he assigned a book that was not on the ‘approved by school list’ to a girl in his class. Dumb. Very dumb. Do I think he’s pedophile, or would I? No. Did he stroke her hair or hold her hand when he asked her? Was he touching himself when asked her? Or are those questions not allowed at The Beat because these parents are watching?

    My opinion still stands; the teacher erred for breaking the rules – the parents overreacted by getting the law, and the press involved.

  2. Thanks, Tina, for a pithy summary of what I think a lot of us were thinking. This case seems like a whole lotta folks exercising poor judgment.

  3. Linda says:

    “If they all chose different books, then he’d have to ask them one on one or in groups, and not as a ‘whole class’ question.”

    Nop, he would not have to do those. He could have asked the students IN WRITING, and then read their essays after the assignment deadline. Asking her (actually ORDERING her, since he had the power to flunk her) to stay alone with him after class in order to ask her about how sexually explicit media made her feel was still NOT a requirement of his job.

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